Accepting the Past and Letting it Go

[Excerpt from TT: 2009-02-08]

[ocean-cheryl] I find myself stuck second-guessing the past, even as I wish to create a better future. Present issues bring up things that I thought had been long resolved, creating a feeling of insecurity. Do you have any specific suggestions for accepting and releasing the “rope of the past”, so one can move more confidently into the future?

[Michael Entity] Cheryl, when one realizes that one has not resolved issues from the past, it only serves to hold on to them longer when one chastises oneself for not having already resolved them. You distract yourself with the self-chastising or exasperation and do not simply allow for the reality to be dealt with. It is the equivalent of a friend “bringing things up again” as you roll your eyes and begrudgingly give your attention to her or him. You are simply not present at that point, or at least, there is a delay in your presence.

When issues from the past come up “again” it would do you well to remember that if it is up again, it never left.

It would also do you well to remember that these things are not imposed upon you, but are a part of your life, a part of your creations, choices, fabric, and are just as valid as any efforts to create a better future. In fact, often when one decides it is time to focus on creating a better future, it can become daunting to find the anchors that are in place that have kept you from doing so all along, but your attention to these is Good Work. It is not punishment or failure.

[luluaussi] like the “flaws” found in a handmade rug, see by some as undesirable but are part of the intrinsic beauty that is the rug?

[ocean-cheryl] yes, the irregularities are what makes it unique

[luluaussi] and do nothing to diminish the beauty of functions either

[luluaussi] not sure if that was on point but the image popped into brain…

[Michael Entity] It would not be amiss to use the weaving, or crocheting, as an analogy for your process. If a stitch or loop is left out or tangled, it is often desireable to return to that stitch or loop, even if it means unraveling to that point, just to ensure the pattern is to your liking.

Often the overall fulfillment of the intended pattern is more rewarding than the frustration of returning to the tangle. It may be annoying in the moment, but if you choose to return to it, it is because you feel the reward of the finished creation is important.

So our response to your question would be to remind yourself of that overall reward and fulfillment and that your attention to issues of the past is a part of your creative process.

[ocean-cheryl] you could not have used a better analogy…. and i need to remember that often I am the only one who knows where the flaws are

[Michael Entity] We have more to say about repetitive patterns arising from the past, but will return to that subject at another time. In the future.