[Excerpt from TT: 2007-05-07]
[Lightspring] Could you suggest exercises or information that would aid with the ability to let go of expectation(s)?
[Michael Entity] Yes: to allow yourself the freedom of expectations. This is the only means you have for learning to navigate your expectations. To “let go” of expectation is about as useful as giving up your legs; yes, it can be done, but mobility is not enhanced by doing so.
Embracing your expectations is to embrace your inner map. However, the expectations that are often felt to be so compelling are simply not the truth of that inner map. To allow the embrace of those expectations can often then reveal the truth of this, and allow for more appropriate desires to lead the way.
Expectation is neutral. Your ability to use the tool of expectation is a spectrum. There is a negative form of expectation and a positive form. To expect that the sun will rise can be seen to be quite natural. To expect a loved one to conform to your ideals is quite another end of the spectrum. In this case, it could then be said that TRUST is the positive pole of Expectation and DEMAND is the negative pole. To demand that the sun rise as you will it in the middle of the night is as fruitless as forcing upon another your ideals. To trust that your loved one can find his or her own path of expression and truth despite your ideals is as beautiful an expectation as one that allows the sun to rise on its own.
If there is pain involved in your experience of expectation, it is quite likely that it is in the realm of DEMANDS. In this case, one must do the work of exploring WHY one would have such demands and then allow room for a shift of attention. In most cases of DEMAND, or painful expectation, one is in a self-karmic cycle of punishment, either upon the self or upon another. There is a perpetual investment in the Demand until there is vindication. To understand that this is a cycle of punishment will often allow room for the true inner map to be found and a new peaceful navigation to be found.
To understand that this is a cycle of punishment is to surrender to the truth that “you will never be right.” When Expectations are painful, when they are DEMANDS, you can never be right. You can only impose your will, if that, but you will never be right. To grasp the reality that there may be more to you than being right can be a disturbing buoy to free oneself from. But there is so much more to you. Demands lead to unfulfilled expectations, which is a root of anger, which is a form of punishment.
It is quite obvious to most of you as to where you are Demanding and where you are Trusting. Free yourselves to navigate more gently, softly, and you will find your expectations have clues, motivations, and magnetism within them that are a part of your true inner map.
NOTE: We use the statement “you will never be right” as it relates to this particular experience, not as an implication that there is actually a wrong or right.