“Hands Across” Technique

[Excerpt from TT: 2004-08-05]

[Question] I was wondering about the hands across technique for centering. I was curious about some examples.

[MEntity] The “hands across” technique, as some of our channels refer to it, is the process of utilizing the positive pole of the Overleaf that shares an axis with your original Overleaf… as a means to move that original Overleaf out of the negative pole. For instance:

An individual who has chosen ACCEPTANCE as a Goal for the lifetime can easily find she begins to feel Ingratiating (the negative pole). Ingratiation comes from forcing a false form of Acceptance over a genuine form of Acceptance, such as saying “yes” when you mean “no”. Ingratiation can also mean forcing others into a position of Acceptance of YOU that is false, such as assuming someone will “get over it” when you offend him or her. The Positive Pole of Acceptance is AGAPE, which is acceptance without attachment, or LOVE. The partner Goal of Acceptance resting on the same Axis is DISCRIMINATION. The Positive Pole of Discrimination is SOPHISTICATION. When someone finds he or she is in the negative pole of Acceptance, he or she can use the “hands across” technique to quickly and powerfully move out of the negative pole. In this case, it would mean “sliding” to Discrimination’s SOPHISTICATION.

Sophistication in our system means being able to determine exactly what is in resonance with YOU, what is in harmony with YOU, and learning how to choose that out of all the choices available to you. A person then who would be using Sophistication to move from Ingratiation would mean that person removes the pressure to accept, and allows himself to say NO to that which is not in harmony with him. In other words, the person gains a much more powerful ability to accept those things that are unacceptable, if he first surrounds himself with that which is more acceptable.

[Question] how might this technique be applied to the centering, for example Emotional Center? Does the Center/Part change anything or do you treat them individually?

[MEntity] This same method can be done with any Overleaves sharing an Axis. The Emotional Center shares an Axis with the Higher Emotional Center; therefore the “hands across” technique would require access to LOVE, the positive pole of the Higher Emotional Center. Sentimentality (the negative pole of the Emotional Center) is simply about ATTACHMENT to symbols, whereas LOVE is complete detachment. In other words, the way to move from your attachment to symbols is through the act of releasing those symbols. Sentimentality simply means being unable to allow an emotional evolution beyond the pictures you have deemed representative of a feeling you have experienced. The Center/Part does not change how you would treat a “hands across” technique in terms of the Primary Centering.

However, your Centering is changeable and is only “Primary” and “Secondary” (part) because of your habitual uses. We note this because it may not be effective to use this technique on such a changeable and malleable system, such as the Centers. In other words, to balance your Emotional Center, it is simply a matter of engaging all other Lower Centers at the same time, which is always the goal. When the Emotional Center is imbalanced, it is most likely due to a lack of use of the Moving or Intellectual Centers appropriately.