Personality Notes

[Excerpt from TT: 2003-05-06]

Personality Notes

Goals are your Primary Motivation behind all experiences within the life. Your Goal is not something you can use to “describe” you, but more an indication as to what the context is for your life. The Goal is something you may or may not achieve to your satisfaction within your current lifetime. If someone has a Goal of Acceptance, for instance, this DOES NOT mean this person IS an accepting person, but more that this person is LEARNING about life from the angle of Acceptance. The Goal is not who or where you are, it just describes the condition of the road you are traveling.

The 7 Goals are:

Re-evaluation: the lifetime revolves around slowing down experience as much as possible, so as to assimilate past life influences.

Growth: the lifetime revolves around gaining as much experience as possible, so as to use in future lives.

Discrimination: the lifetime revolves around learning how to acutely refine your choices and decisions.

Acceptance: the lifetime revolves around learning how to broadly accept all of your choices and decisions (including the choices of others).

Submission: the lifetime revolves around learning where and how you are most needed and effective.

Dominance: the lifetime revolves around learning how to direct and lead what is most needed and effective in others.

Flow: the lifetime is learning how to relax, enjoy life, and let it unfold, trusting in Essence.

Modes are the manner in which you approach your Goal and they are most obvious in how you approach your relationships. Modes are probably the most difficult to understand or “see” for some, but when you examine the way a person handles relationships, it becomes most apparent.

The 7 Modes are:

Reserve: reaching your Goal by refining your emotions

Passion: reaching your Goal by freeing your emotions

Caution: reaching your Goal by refining your thoughts

Power: reaching your Goal by freeing your thoughts

Perseverance: reaching your Goal by refining your actions

Aggression: reaching your Goal by freeing your actions

Observation: reaching your Goal by observing and using the Mode most appropriate for the occasion

The Attitude is your Primary Perception of this life. Most of your obstacles or successes in this life will come from how you perceive things. Your Primary Fears (the Chief Negative Features) are directly linked to your Attitude, depending on whether you see the world from the Positive or Negative Pole of your Attitude.

The 7 Attitudes are:

Stoic: sees life as if they have seen it all before

Spiritualist: sees life as if they have never seen it before

Skeptic: sees life like it can always be disproved

Idealist: sees life like it can always be improved

Cynic: sees life as opposite to what appears to be

Realist: sees life as it appears

Pragmatist: sees life practically and through the Attitude most appropriate for the occasion

The 7 Body Types are:

Lunar: rounded, pale, emotional; good for lifetimes dealing with one on one Inspirational contact (relates to Server)

Saturnian: tall, durable, lean; good for lifetimes dealing with Inspirational issues for groups (relates to Priest)

Mercurial: witty, quick, wiry; good for lifetimes dealing with expression one on one (relates to Artisan)

Jovial: round, fleshy, large; good for lifetimes dealing with being in a central position of expression for others (relates to Sage)

Martial: fiery, reactive, high-energy; good for lifetimes dealing with actions affecting people one on one (relates to Warrior)

Venusian: soft, sensual, warm, charismatic; good for lifetimes dealing with being open, approachable, and accessible to larger groups (relates to King)

Solar: bright, spirited, small and frail; good for lifetimes needing to be in the center of everything (relates to Scholar)

*a note on Body Types: There are no “pure” Body Types. There is usually a combination of two to three influences. In addition there are three “eccentric” Body Types that a person can have for some of the more extraordinary lives. They are Plutonian, Neptunian, and Uranian. They are rare and specific so we won’t go into those here.

There are 7 Centers and you may recognize them as relative to the Chakras if you are familiar with Chakras.

Though there are 7 Centers, a human body usually only uses one Center habitually.

There are “higher” and “lower” Centers but they are not better or worse. The “lower” Centers are more of the Physical Plane and affect the body, while the “higher” Centers are more spiritual and affect our connections beyond the Physical. Since so much energy is involved in the sustaining of experience in the “higher” Centers, it is extremely rare to be centered in a “higher” Center, but instead they are Centers accessed for specific purposes or events. The “higher” Centers are accessed through practice, meditation, randomly, or through intense trauma.

The 7 Centers are:

Instinctive: this center travels with you from life to life like a floppy disc. It stores all experiences ever gathered, including indications as to the areas of growth still needed and all the areas you have come to peace with. It isn’t very intelligent, but is an amazing storehouse and protective device. It is where all of your past lives are remembered along with your current lifetime’s history.

Higher Moving Center: this is the Center relating to a pure connection and recognition of ENERGY (or Beauty). It is pure creativity and recognition of beauty as it is. It is experienced when you feel awe in seeing a landscape or piece of art, for example, or when you feel completely connected to everything around you, seeing its perfection as it is. This is the most accessed of the “higher” Centers and profound sex can sometimes trigger it. The navigational tool of the Higher Moving Center is HUMOR, and the biological reaction to, or manifestation of its experience is usually LAUGHTER. A person who has harmonized his or her internal energy with external space, many times this results in uninhibited laughter, or at least, broad smiles.

Moving Center: this is the Center that governs our body movements and actions. Those who are Moving Centered are action-oriented and take in life through their bodies and sensations.

Emotional Center: this is the Center that governs our sense of relation and resonance to others and within. Those who are Emotionally Centered take in life through perceptions and feelings.

Higher Emotional Center: this Center is your pure sense of LOVE, total, complete unconditional Love, or as Michael calls it, “agape” (pronounced a-GOP-ee). It is felt when you completely allow yourself or another to behave, think, and be. There are no comparisons here. The navigational tool of the Higher Emotions is HAPPINESS, and the biological reaction to, or the manifestation of this Center is usually experienced as PLEASURE, or Ecstasy. A person who has allowed profound permission for himself or another, it is difficult to avoid Happiness, for which Pleasure is a symptom.

Intellectual Center: this Center governs our beliefs and thoughts and communication. Those who are Intellectually Centered take in life through insight and analysis.

Higher Intellectual Center: this is the Center where absolute TRUTH is experienced, and contradictions are able to be simultaneously comprehended. The Navigational Tool for this Center is REVELATION, and the biological reaction to, or the manifestation of this Center can be seen in TEARS. A person who has assimilated an absolute truth has usually accepted a Revelation, which results in Tears. Even the death of a loved one is an absolute truth which eventually comes as a Revelations. Acceptance of the Revelations results in Tears.

Parts & Traps:

Knowing yours or someone else’s Centering is truly helpful in understanding how a person takes in life, but there’s more: the PART of the Center.

Within each Center ALL other Centers reside, kind of like a pie. So the Intellectual Center, for instance, will have an Emotional Part, an Instinctive Part, a Higher Emotional Part, etc., even an Intellectual Part (pure Intellect then).

These PARTS are how the person puts their experience back out into the world after taking it in!

PARTS are also called TRAPS because a person can get so caught up in using only the PART that they forget to balance themselves with other Parts. For instance, a person might be Intellectually Centered/Emotional Part. This means they take in life through observation and analysis, but then bring it back out into the world through Emotions, meaning they might get very emotional over their thoughts. The Emotional Center has no “voice”, so the intellectual center can get caught in the Emotional Trap, muting the thinking, analyzing and reasoning, leading them back to emotions, which then go back through the reasoning, giving rise to more emotions, etc. Eventually something has to give. What will most likely happen is that he would eventually act out with the neglected Moving Center. He may get angry and lash out, or he may actually breakdown crying, taking an action that helps get out of the Emotional Trap.

Most people have their Centering and Parts in the “lower” Centers, such as Emotional Center/Moving Part.

Remember that most solutions to, and exits from your Trap can be found in bringing in the neglected Center. For example, if you are Emotionally Centered, Moving Part, you will have to bring in the Intellect in order to balance yourself, meaning that you need to add THOUGHTS and COMMUNICATION to your ACTIONS as you react to FEELINGS.

To look at each PART/Trap, here are the ways I understand them:

INTELLECTUAL PART: This person will have lessons around how to take the input from his Primary Centering and express that input’s effect back out into the world appropriately. No matter how well this individual can communicate, he will still have a spectrum of lessons and challenges the area of Communication and Expression.

EMOTIONAL PART: This person will have lessons around how to take the input from the basic Centering and how to process the feelings that arise from that input. He may have deep emotions, but have little way of actually showing or accessing them. This person would have lessons and challenges around Feelings and Inspirations.

MOVING PART: This person will have lessons around how to take input from the basic Centering and how to actually behave as a reaction to that input. He may have a lot of energy, but he is learning how to direct that energy appropriately out of the body through Actions and Reactions.

There are 7 Chief Negative Features (or fears) from which you choose at least two while in your teens. One Chief Feature is your PRIMARY and the other is your Secondary.

The Primary affects and challenges your attaining your GOAL, therefore affecting more of your personal experiences, and the Secondary affects and challenges your MODE, therefore affecting more of your relationships and intimacy issues.

Your Chief Negative Features are your basic fears that keep you from satisfying your life’s sense of fulfillment.

We choose the Chief Feature (or Fear) during our adolescence. These are chosen or settled upon after seeing what our parents or caretakers were frightened of, what we have seen in our world that frightens us, ourselves. Once chosen, they stick with us for as long as we think we need the protection, though you can free yourself from Chief Feature at any point. It is our life’s most difficult and on-going challenge.

Some parents and care takers think they can see in a small child a Chief Feature, but technically a Chief Feature is not usually present before the Teen years. In the same way that an animal companion can take on certain “personality” traits as extensions of the caretaker, so do children as they live with adults. A parent can funnel his or her own Chief Features through the children without even realizing it so the child mimics or plays out some of the parent’s own Fears. Sometimes the Child’s actions simply stimulate or emulate the parent’s own Chief Feature and this can seem like the child is acting out when, instead, the child is helping you to work on your own fears.

Every difficult and painful experience stems from the struggles with or through Chief Features. There can be all kinds of “good” things extracted after-the-fact, or lessons gained, of course, but it’s not necessary to learn this way forever. Many people are unconsciously convinced that the Chief Feature has redeeming value since it is always possible to extract some lesson from it, but it isn’t the Chief Feature that brings the insight, it is the Attitude.

Chief features are excellent for helping us to learn as Personality in the same way that learning not to touch something hot is good for your body. The Chief Feature is no longer necessary when you have learned the lessons though, anymore than it would be necessary to continue burning your hand. Despite our growth and wisdom, many of us find security in sustaining and defending the Chief Feature because it serves us as a true protector. Eventually, we do come to realize that there has never been a true threat.

Chief Features can be like “junk food” to the Personality. Chief Features are so compelling and exciting and lesson-filled, that Essence allows the Personality to indulge in the Chief Feature as much as the Personality wishes. The Personality gets addicted to the Chief Feature because it keeps life stimulating, even if painfully.

The key to alleviating the Chief Feature is by using your Attitude. Making sure you are in the Positive Pole of your Attitude will assure you are not in the throes of your Chief Feature!

*Special Note: The Chief Features you struggle with, may or may not extend from your own behavior, but can also be seen in the themes of struggle against certain types of people you attract into your life.

The 7 CF’s are:

Self-Deprecation: fear of Inadequacy; your not able to live up to your or someone else’s standards, leaving you feeling weak, insecure, needy, and incompetent. Fear of NOT BEING ENOUGH.

Arrogance: fear of Vulnerability; wanting others to live up to your standards, or fearing that your own standards do not count, leaving you vulnerable, judgmental, separate. Fear of BEING TOO MUCH.

Self-deprecation and Arrogance are directly linked and proportional to the lack of True Inspiration in the life.

Self-Destruction: fear of worthlessness; feeling that you have no worth or value unless dead or dying for someone/something else, leaving you with ongoing sacrifices for others with no gain for anyone. Fear of TAKING/GETTING TOO MUCH.

Greed: fear of scarcity; feeling that you won’t get all that is out there of worth to you personally; leaving you fixated on one or two things that you cannot. This lack can be food, affection, sex, money, even vague things like not enough “love”. Fear of NOT TAKING/GETTING ENOUGH.

Self-destruction and Greed are directly linked to and proportional to the lack of True Expression in the life.

Martyrdom: Fear of Chaos; a strong need for being in control of everything in the personal and extended space even though that is impossible. This leaves the person feeling victimized, burdened, and complaining. Fear of LOSING CONTROL OF SPACE.

Impatience: Fear of missing out; this person is always fighting the clock, trying to control before being controlled, leaving them intolerant and agitated. Fear of LOSING CONTROL OF TIME.

Martyrdom and Impatience are linked to and proportional to the lack of True Activity in the life.

Stubbornness: fear of Change; this person cannot and will not deal with anything new or contradictory to the already-set opinions, ideas, and environment. Some people who have Stubbornness can actually appear as if they are adventurous and changeable, but looking closely you may find the classic method of avoiding change through the us of “the more things change, the more they stay the same”. Constant change can just be a way of avoiding dealing with actual change. Fear of ANYTHING DIFFERENT.

Stubbornness is linked to and proportional to the lack of Assimilation (Comprehension) in the life.